Opinion - How to Attract And Keep A Man, A Lesson For African Women
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One of the most important principles to establish in life is that anything a person chases runs away. It’s just a part of human nature. To become someone’s dream girl, you must never chase a man. If he wants you, he will conquer you.
Some girls fail to recognize the fact that women who have men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care that much.
Males are natural predators. One of the most attractive qualities a potential love interest can have is her elusiveness, when a woman offers a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has 100% hold on her.
Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call just to see how you will respond. If you start out dependent it turns him off, but if it’s something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it.
In order to gain your man’s respect, you first must respect yourself and own who you are. Thus, you must be happy and content with your life. It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt. A woman has to act like a prize to turn him into a believer.
When it comes to a few steps towards a serious relationship, it is vital for a woman to show confidence and independence. The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice — is fear.
The bitch shows that she is not afraid to be without him. If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritize her dignity above all else. If it appears that you feel disrespected by a man’s actions, he will feel like he has a hold on you. Telling a man no, expressing your own opinions shows self-respect, and he will respect you even more. In conversations, not always agreeing with him makes you even more attractive in his eyes.
When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating for a man to obtain her. For a man being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied. That’s when he will keep coming back.
Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. A man knows which woman will give in last-minute. If you schedule dates to his convenience or constantly make yourself available for him, almost immediately you present yourself as a doormat. Men love unpredictability.
Many women tend to ask men to account for the time that they aren’t around. If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom. Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent them and her. Don’t expect him to spend all of his free time with you. Basically let him give what he wants to give freely — then observe who he is.
Giving a man room to come your way is an essential principle. A bitch gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage… he sets out to trap her in his. Keeping your distance and restraining from constant checking up on him shows signs of independence.
If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind. When a woman gives the appearance that he has plenty of space, it gets him to drop his guard. More than anything else, men watch to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent.
Every woman wants to be perceived as an equal partner in a relationship. He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then he will perceive you as an equal and give respect.
EVERY men wants to have sex first, whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it.
Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman is not.
If you set out to build a real relationship, getting straight down to business is a bad idea. Sex and the spark are not the same. Man will take time to appreciate and perceive you as more beautiful if you make him wait to have sex.
If you pull the sexual plug at the last minute, he’ll label you a tease. A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him.
If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide. A quality guys fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex. When there is that undeniable “spark” there is only one key to the lock.
Males are natural predators. One of the most attractive qualities a potential love interest can have is her elusiveness, when a woman offers a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has 100% hold on her.
Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call just to see how you will respond. If you start out dependent it turns him off, but if it’s something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it.
In order to gain your man’s respect, you first must respect yourself and own who you are. Thus, you must be happy and content with your life. It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt. A woman has to act like a prize to turn him into a believer.
When it comes to a few steps towards a serious relationship, it is vital for a woman to show confidence and independence. The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice — is fear.
The bitch shows that she is not afraid to be without him. If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritize her dignity above all else. If it appears that you feel disrespected by a man’s actions, he will feel like he has a hold on you. Telling a man no, expressing your own opinions shows self-respect, and he will respect you even more. In conversations, not always agreeing with him makes you even more attractive in his eyes.
When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating for a man to obtain her. For a man being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied. That’s when he will keep coming back.
Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. A man knows which woman will give in last-minute. If you schedule dates to his convenience or constantly make yourself available for him, almost immediately you present yourself as a doormat. Men love unpredictability.
Many women tend to ask men to account for the time that they aren’t around. If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom. Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent them and her. Don’t expect him to spend all of his free time with you. Basically let him give what he wants to give freely — then observe who he is.
Giving a man room to come your way is an essential principle. A bitch gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage… he sets out to trap her in his. Keeping your distance and restraining from constant checking up on him shows signs of independence.
If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind. When a woman gives the appearance that he has plenty of space, it gets him to drop his guard. More than anything else, men watch to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent.
Every woman wants to be perceived as an equal partner in a relationship. He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then he will perceive you as an equal and give respect.
EVERY men wants to have sex first, whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it.
Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman is not.
If you set out to build a real relationship, getting straight down to business is a bad idea. Sex and the spark are not the same. Man will take time to appreciate and perceive you as more beautiful if you make him wait to have sex.
If you pull the sexual plug at the last minute, he’ll label you a tease. A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him.
If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide. A quality guys fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex. When there is that undeniable “spark” there is only one key to the lock.
